When Good People Have Affairs - Mira Kirshenbaum

When Good People Have Affairs

By Mira Kirshenbaum

  • Release Date: 2008-05-27
  • Genre: Family & Relationships
4 Score: 4 (From 136 Ratings)


A world-renowned therapist, Mira Kirshenbaum has treated thousands of men and women caught in the powerful drama over what to do when an affair reaches into their emotional lives. Now, in When Good People Have Affairs, Kirshenbaum puts her unsurpassed experience into one clear, calming place. She gives readers everything they need to cut through the thickets of fear, hurt and confusion to find their ways to happier, more solid relationships with the person who's right for them. For example, Kirshenbaum identifies seventeen types of affairs, helping readers figure out which type they're in and what it means. Is it a:

--"See-if" affair?
--Ejector-seat affair?
--Distraction affair?
--Unmet-needs affair?
--Panic affair?

Kirshenbaum encourages honest answers to such questions as:
--What am I missing in my marriage?
--How do I decide between two people when it's like comparing an apple to an orange?
--How do I decide to end my marriage, end my affair, or end them both?

She leads readers through six easy-to-navigate steps that will take anyone from anxiety to clarity. When Good People Have Affairs will be a lifeline to any man or woman who feels caught between two lovers, and its insights are indispensable to anyone else touched by an affair.


  • Food for Thought

    By DJBjmt
    A wonderful read and resource! I couldn't put the book (well iPad mini lol) down. Kirshenbaum really injects herself well into a variety of scenarios and situations which cover a variety of possibilities either you are, have directly, or indirectly experienced. Her patient and personal accounts are fantastic and entertaining. Reading this has inspired me to not break up, nor stay together, but more importantly to look at my life and turn the focus towards self, relationship, and life improvement. It's not selfish to want what you want so long as you're thoughtful and know what you want. And even if you don't know what you want, Kirshenbaum offers ways to help you think about how to figure that out! My emotional intelligence (although far from genius level) increased after finishing this great book. Thank you for the food for thought... I am hungry for more and can't wait til the next meal!
  • Good information

    By luke5734
    The author has great information on the emotions involved in affairs. The guilt I have been feeling was explained and I feel a little better about everything that has happened. I wish there had been information on when both partners have affairs. The book deserves reading if you have been on either side of an affair, it definitely helped ease the pain, thanks!
  • When Good People Have Affairs

    By PTY Chica
    Impressively well written, and amazingly spot on how an affair develops and feels. This book provided me with more insight than 4 months in couples therapy. I felt the author was writing my story. Only wish I had a directly line to the author. It is book that will make you think, analyze and refocus where you want to go and how you want to live your life. I will certainly recommend this book to my therapist so he can putting to practice some of the advice in this book. You won`t reget reading this book, it`s a game changer. Thank you.