Attached - Amir Levine & Rachel Heller

Attached

By Amir Levine & Rachel Heller

  • Release Date: 2010-12-30
  • Genre: Family & Relationships
4.5 Score: 4.5 (From 131 Ratings)

Description

We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle? According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resounding "yes."

In Attached, Levine and Heller reveal how an understanding of adult attachment-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness. Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.
In this book Levine and Heller guide readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.

Reviews

  • Eye opening

    4
    By hopeafin
    Currently nursing a broken heart and sorting through all kinds of emotions. A friend recommended that I read this book to better understand myself and also my ex. It was a great read and forced me to hold a mirror to myself. Also made me hopeful that in the future, I can not only work on myself in a relationship but I can pick a partner and weed out incompatible ones more quickly.
  • Very Eye Opening

    5
    By Slimm210
    I very much enjoyed this book and learned so much about myself and the significance of staying true to yourself. A lot of these relationship books can make you feel like there's something wrong with you and most issues in your romantic relationships are your fault. Looking forward to applying what I've learned and meeting the right person.
  • 10/10

    5
    By MrGJr488
    Extremely good read. After realizing I've had attachment issues for a great portion of my adult life, reading this book helped me gain a bit of clarity. If you are looking to understand yourself and your relationship better, this book is for you.
  • Superb

    5
    By AnujTaneja
    Must read for anyone to gain insight into the science of attachment and the role it plays in relationships
  • Break up cycle

    5
    By cancan82
    If you are stuck in an on again off again this will help you get out of the anxious/avoidant trap. Reading other case studies was so awaking. I now know to find someone who can meet my needs and it really is "it's not you its me"!!!! Don't beat yourself up when the relationship doesn't work.
  • Eye opening!

    5
    By Tkee34
    This book has opened my eyes to a lot of the reason my most recent relationship did not work out and how to not fall into that trap again. If you're wondering why you fight so much with your partner or why your last relationship failed, give this book a read
  • Described my relationship perfectly

    5
    By DJH97
    I'm anxious and my wife is avoidant. The examples and descriptions in this book were 95% accurate around how I feel and very accurate around what I perceive my wife is feeling. If she reads this book I think we can repair our marriage and bring back the happy days we had in the first couple of years. I feel that early on we both managed to care for each other's emotional well being but as life stresses added up (baby, money, move to another state, college, etc) we started to fall back on our natural dispositions and things have spiraled down in the vicious cycle that anxious-avoidant relationships have. Thank you for clearly expressing this theory. In my opinion it is spot on.
  • Awesome book!

    5
    By NylonNicole
    So insightful!
  • Awesome

    5
    By LatinoDDS
    Book is great! Recommend to anyone who wants a better relationship.
  • Great book

    5
    By Pypysik
    I found this book is very interesting. There are combinations from theoretical part of psychology and examples based on real people made this book attractive and easy understandable for whom not so good in the area. Enjoy if you are interesting in human behaviors and curious how to improve your relationship.

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